Summary the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck
Book Summary — The Subtle Fine art of non Giving a Fuck (2)
Chapter two: Happiness is a Problem
Have you lot read the first affiliate? If you lot haven't, then you tin go to
Chapter 1: Don't Try.
That life itself is a form of suffering
Everything that you lot have, everything that you lot pursue, is a form of suffering. Let'southward say y'all have a girlfriend/beau. Sometimes, you suffer because of them. You don't have a girlfriend/beau, you as well suffer considering of them. Rich people suffer because of their riches (kinda strange isn't it? But believe me and Marker, they do suffer), while the poor suffer because of their poverty.
And so you get-go to wonder why is happiness is a problem, or you lot don't. But I'm gonna tell yous anyway. We have a wrong premise to be happy. Our premise is basically like this
If I attain X, then I can be happy. If I look like Y, then I tin be happy. If I can be with a person similar Z, and then I can be happy.
The problem is the premise. Happiness isn't an equation. Mark said that sadness, dissatisfaction, unease etc. are office of inherent human nature and they are the necessary component to create consistent happiness.
The Misadventures of Disappointment Panda
Marker has a panda. This panda isn't just a normal panda. This panda is a superhero, with a special superpower, to tell people the harsh truth about their lives. If you meet this panda, he will tell you lot how ugly y'all are, that you are such a failure. Of class that wouldn't pleasant to hear. Simply sometimes, what we need is for someone to tell u.s. the truth. The harsh truth is going to brand your life better, although maybe it makes y'all experience like a shit. Merely recall of it like bitter vegetables on your plate. They are without a incertitude healthy, you but have to accept that it takes a fiddling bit of effort to eat them.
Pain, in all of its form, is our trunk's most effective ways of spurring action. Information technology helps evidence us what's good for the states versus what'southward bad for usa.
There are basically ii kinds of hurting. Concrete pain and psychological pain. Both are of import. Both are an indication that something is going incorrect, something is going out of the equilibrium. And basically they get experience for us. They teach u.s. not to make the same mistake over and once more. But, not all kind of pains are equal. Of form, some kind of pain are more painful than the other. What we demand is a healthy dose of hurting from a series of problems.
Life is essentially an endless series of issues. The solution to one trouble is merely the creation of the side by side ane. Don't hope for a life without problems. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.
Happiness Comes from Solving Problems
Problems never finish, they simply get exchanged and/or upgraded.
You want to cook something. Y'all have to purchase ingredients from marketplace, that's a trouble. Afterward you buy them, you lot have to melt them, which is also, a trouble. Another problem is when you don't know the recipe so you have to look for it first. After that, yous have to eat what yous melt, this is a good problem, agree? :)
For the last role, you have to clean the dishes. There are then many bug
Happiness comes from solving issues. Emphasis on the solving word. Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, Truthful happiness occurs only when y'all discover the bug you lot enjoy having and savor solving.
So, for yous to be happy, just solve some problems. Information technology'south that elementary. Sadly, most people don't feel that manner. About of them commonly face these two problems.
Emotions are overrated
Emotions are office of the equation of our lives, but not the entire equation. Just because something feels good doesn't mean it is good. But because somethings feels bad doesn't mean information technology is bad.
Try to question your emotions sometimes. When you are having negative emotion, accept them, don't fall into the feedback loop from hell. Remember that hurting serves a purpose.
Some other funny thing well-nigh emotion is that nosotros are constantly in need and crave for more than positive emotions. Aforementioned corporeality of positive emotions won't have the same event like the starting time time. While for the negative, we are constantly trying to avoid them. Just, the same amount of negative emotions always pile on tiptop of the other and they are getting bigger and bigger.
There'southward an illustration from Lemony Snicket, the author of A Serial of Unfortunate Events. 13 volumes of three unluckiest children trying to survive in the cruel word facing problems one after another. Before I'm getting out of topic, here's the analogy (it may not be accurate because I read them like, 8–x years ago?).
Imagine yourself, going to a squeamish cafe, you are ordering a strawberry milkshake. When your order comes in, you endeavor them and it blows your mind. It feels amazingly good. The next day you come once more to the same buffet with the same order. It still felt great, but not like the kickoff fourth dimension. On the 3rd day, you come dorsum once again, and you commencement to wonder why it's non as good every bit the first time.
On the 4th day, you come over again, and you find a thumb tack in your beverage. You start to experience weird and rather disappointed. Dorsum once more on the 5th twenty-four hour period, you find some other thumb tack in your drink. Now you feel greater disappointment, and you beginning to be angry. You begin to think whether or non yous should come back here again. Yup, the story went like that, more or less.
We similar the idea that there's some form of ultimate happiness that tin exist attained. Nosotros like the idea that nosotros can alleviate all of our suffering permanently. We like the idea that we can experience fulfilled and satisfied with our lives forever. But nosotros cannot.
Choose Your Struggle
Everybody wants the god things in life, the skillful emotions all the time. What everybody never considers is what pain are they okay with, what are they willing to struggle for. We just desire the rewards, the results. Most of us don't want to struggle and to requite it some work. We are not willing to go through the process.
For example, you lot want to exist good for you and take a squeamish abs. Are you willing to go early in the morning? Eat good for you things, like vegetable? Go to the gym? Driving long hours to the gym? Working your ass off? Sweat like crazy? Are you willing to practice all of that?
Happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. The path to happiness is a path full of shit-heaps and shame.
So that's it. Cease of chapter two :)
Source: https://medium.com/@WilliamStefan/book-summary-1b-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fuck-d0ef1ddbacc7
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